So some days you can feel like super mom juggling little hearts, laundry, meal times, dance practice, play dates…. and then. Well, there’s other days you just don’t. The kids have bad attitudes, the smoke detector goes off because you burnt the fries (I OFCOURSE don’t know this from experience 😝), it’s one defiant episode after the other, and even coffee can’t save you. By the end of the day, you may just want to go to sleep at 8 even though there are messes everywhere and dishes piled high. Because you got those little crazies to sleep and that is a HUGE FREAKING ACCOMPLISHMENT for the day.
We’ve been in a 5 day rut. When raising kids who’ve been through significant trauma, it takes a little extra to come back to your “normal.” So here’s a few things I’ve learned that helps my little beauties come back to me instead of living in the past.
1. Change of environment.
This may seem simple, but it’s HUGE. I, thank God, have an awesome momma who we can go visit when things get super overwhelming for us. But even if this isn’t the case for you, getting my kids in a vehicle and jamming to Moana or worship songs helps everyone out. Go to a park. Go to Sonic. Do something out of the ordinary and make it a special treat. Just GET OUT OF THE HOUSE.
2. Refocus: “I am thankful for this moment.”
We have a saying we repeat when things get overwhelming: “I am thankful for this moment.” It remind my girls not to worry about the future and be thankful for this day. So if your little love bugs are getting anxiety causing them to ask all the what-if questions, maybe you could implement this saying too!
3. Call a friend!
Maybe you need to vent. And that’s ok. Hopefully you have SOMEONE who knows your situation who you can just talk to. But it also helps our kids too! Yes you can call and talk, but so can they! Maybe they need to refocus or vent. Let them call a friend or an aunt or someone they love and trust (who you also love and trust)! It gives them a break from the chaos while giving you a break too 🙂
Know that this day will end. Sometimes that’s just all we can hang on to when we are dealing with fits all day long. Tomorrow is a new day. And let your babies know that too! Tomorrow is a new day and a new start 🙂 You of course don’t have to wait til tmrw…. depending on the time of day. But it’s also ok if that’s what you need to do.
5. YOU ARE A BADASS
You are enough. You are enough. You are enough. Even when it doesn’t feel like it, you have these kids in your life for a reason. They need you. They love you. And they pick up on your feelings. You didn’t cause their trauma. You are only here to love them through it. ❤️❤️❤️
“You didn’t cause their trauma. You are only here to love them through it.”
SO. You’re only human. And that’s ok! We need to recharge and refocus sometimes. It’s good. It’s strong. And your kids need you to be you. So take a moment. Breathe. And trust your mom gut, knowing you are strong and capable of taking on this day and every day after.